This week we put away our party hats and social butterfly personalities and tip our glasses to that often-misunderstood and maligned tribe who represents about one third of all people … introverts!
This episode's wine: Big House Pinot Evil Pinot Noir from California
This episode's cheese: Colby Jack
Emily and James explore how taking a bag of wine from a box of wine is like giving birth to a baby calf.
Emily tells us all about the Myers Briggs personality, the four characterizations within and profile and her self-diagnosis as an introverted, intuitive, thinking judgmental person — we’re totally shocked to learn Emily is judgmental! Take your own test here.
James questions the validity of the test—ever the cynic—and Emily praises the other INTJs — in fiction, most of who happen to by psychopathic murderous geniuses, which doesn’t really dissuade Emily from admiring them.
James talks about how introverts are demonized a bit, and the idea that intorverts are energized by solitary creative pursuits, and strained by social encounters and extroverts are energized by social encounters.
We learn about introverts need to sit quietly and process information and think and learn, and the exhausting exercise of socializing on introverts.
Emily’s surprised her daugheter doesn’t appear to be an introvert aften spending so many hours staring up at the ceiling fan, without interest in any other subject.
Children have the instinct for extroversion, until the world sets upon them and teacher them to fear other people’s judgments.
Emily tells us about ambiverts, who are estimated to be up to 2/3 of all people. They fall on the spectrum between introverts and extraverts, and they flip back and forth between the two worlds. But not Donald Trump, who we perceive as 100 percent extrovert.
Wine discounts everything we’ve said about the introvert.
Emily lets us know about the origins of ther maiden name, Peck, who liked to live on the peak of mountains and avoid socializing for several millennia, other than for procreating.
James goes off an a tangent about his love of Katharine Hepburn and Meryl Streep and how, the mispercetions people have because of his affinity for those fine actresses and their drunkenss—Katharine, not Meryl. Also, we love You Must Remember This!
Can you be heterosexual and love Katharine Hepburn and the Jets?
James tells us about Susan Cain and her book and TED talk about the strength and value of introverts and society tries to subvert their instincts and their thoughtfulness.
Intorverts, she said, often give in to society’s pressure to be overly social and allow their instincts to be overruled. And all the great religious figures have found great wisdom in introversion and solitude.
We talk about the dangers of open office spaces — one of the many pitfall of gearing a world toward extroverts, and the perks of being an introvert, despite the push of the value extroverts.
Resting bitch face sucks if you're also an introvert. But marketers and advertisers are trying to get into our psyche to get to introverts, especially when ads invade our personal spaces.
Next time you see an ad on the door of a bathroom stall, know it's geared toward introverts. Also, the majority of us take our phones into the bathroom. Marketers, leave us alone!
Another perk of being an introvert is having a close-knit group of friends, as opposed to a huge number of friends.
Also, small talk sucks. Just, stop talking to introverts about the weather!
And, James wants to end on himself by talking about narcissistic introverts. He also wants to be eaten by Hannibal Lecter, who is a loveable evil genius, in a way. James' fan fiction would be about Hannibal Lecter and Clarice turning into hobos.
"And, also, she thinks Jigsaw from 'Saw' is a pretty swell guy." - James, about Emily.
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